This article from Bai Luhan international home economics blog, click to view the original blog.
cheerful optimism is a State of mind, is also a character quality. Surveys show that cheerful optimistic not only healthier (such as cancer incidence significantly less pessimistic and depressive), and marriage more happiness, career success more easily. So how should children have such a positive personality? United States child education expert Dr tanike makes the following recommendations:
1, and not to child controls too restrictive
as parents, children without discipline, can no longer be courageously and, of course, but the controls too restrictive and may suppress the childlike innocence of the child, have a negative effect on children's mental health.
may wish to keep the children in different age stage has different options. Only from small to enjoy the right to choose the child can feel truly happy and comfortable.
2, encouraging children to make friends
most of the children of the poor communication character depression, from time to time as may suffer from suffering loneliness, do not enjoy the warmth of friendship. May wish to encourage children to make friends, especially friends. Itself more introvert and depressive child appropriate friends pay more cheerful optimism.
3, children of the Church and people get on
and others to get on the inner world is bright. Parents may wish to contact with children of different age, gender, personality, career and social status of people, let them learn and get different types of people. Of course, first of all, children have to learn with their parents and brothers and sisters get, with relatives and friends get on. In addition, parents should relate with others, so warm and honest, not snobbery lowly, not talking about people behind free, set a good example for children.
4, material life avoiding luxury
makes children a insatiable psychological material luxury, and the pursuit of material is often difficult to obtain personal satisfaction, which is the root cause of why most greedy is not happy. Instead, the children who lived a simple life, often just to get a toy, it will have a very happy.
5, children like widely
a child if there is only a hobby, it's hard to maintain a long and happy feeling. Just think: children love watching TV only once when you do not have the appropriate program in the evening, will be sad. In contrast, if a child is not a TV love reading, read or play games, also coke in it.
6, guide a child out of the Woods
even optimistic by nature man can not always desirable, it is impossible to "happiness". Parents in the best boy is hour train their ability to cope with difficulties, of adversity. If children could not get out of trouble, can also educate children learn to be patient, or at a time when adversity comes to seek another spiritual, such as participating in sports, games, chat, and so on.
7, possesses moderate confidence
formation of character have confidence and happiness are closely related. On a full of inferiority because of limited intelligence or ability of the child, parents must find its strength carried forward, and make more praise and encouraging. Positive recognition from parents, relatives and friends undoubtedly helps children overcome low self-esteem, build up confidence.
8, create a happy family atmosphere
family atmosphere, relationships between family members, to a large extent, will affect the formation of character. Research shows that children can feel before they learn to speak around the mood and atmosphere, even though he was not to express in words. It can be inferred that a family full of hostility and even violence, absolute training not a cheerful optimistic child.
